How to Postpone Your Wedding!
We are dedicated to helping you navigate this. The hardest part for most couples is just not knowing where to start, so we have created a step by step list for you to help you postpone your wedding with ease. At the bottom of this post is a vendor checklist that you can print out and use! So, grab a drink and let's get started!
STEP 1: Contact Your Wedding Planner
If you have a wedding planner or coordinator, reach out to them! They have the connections to all of your vendors and will be able to do a lot of the leg work.
If you do NOT have a wedding planner, that's okay! Start by making a list of your wedding vendors including each company name along with any phone numbers or email addresses. Most businesses are working virtually and are still there to take phone calls or answer emails! Remember that your vendors are suffering right now, too and they want to help you.
STEP 2: Stay Informed
Write down any questions you have before you reach out to any vendors. I don't know about you, but I always forget half of the questions I have when I am on the phone with literally anyone. Some examples of important questions would be: "Is my date still available?" "If we had to postpone, would my deposit roll over?" "If I did have to move my date, when do you have available?" "How many people am I able to invite according to any revised guidelines?" "Have you made any changes to your service because of Covid-19?" etc. Don't be afraid to ask any questions you have. There are no stupid questions and there are no irrelevant questions. Just ask!
STEP 3: Re-Save the Date
Call or email each vendor STARTING WITH your venue because as you know, the date you book with the venue is the date that you tell all of your other vendors. Check to see if your date is still secured. If not, you will have to ask about moving to another date. I know that waiting longer sucks, but it’s worth it because you and your fiancé deserve to celebrate the way you want with everyone important to you. After you have talked with your venue and have a solid idea of the wedding date, whether it's the original date or a new date, you can now contact your other vendors: caterer, florist, photographer, entertainment, rental companies, etc.
Hint: scroll all the way down for a printable vendor checklist!
STEP 4: Finances
Keep copies of any contracts that you have with your vendors. Read them over and pay attention to the fine print. Most likely, contracts will not have a clause for "global pandemics," however, most contracts will contain a clause that pertains to unforeseeable circumstances, so be sure to read through carefully. If someone else is helping you finance your wedding, include them. Don't be afraid to consult a professional if you feel uncomfortable.
STEP 5: Just Breathe
Take a moment for yourself and take a deep breath.This one is important because most people are having a hard time dealing with everything that's going on in the world and with the added stress of wedding planning/postponing not only magnifies all those anxieties, but also makes it really easy to forget to YOU. We want you to be okay, so if you need to just take a moment for yourself, DO IT! Always remember that it's okay to feel sad and it's okay to feel angry. This is awful and your feelings about it are valid! So, pour that glass of wine!
A few things to keep in mind...
Don't be afraid to ask for help! Your friends and family are on your side and having their help will make things so much easier for you and your fiance.
You probably already have most things figured out for your wedding that you don't have to change if you postpone. If you have already ordered your wedding gown, bridesmaids dresses, or tux rentals, you're almost half way done! Even if your wedding completely changes, you can still wear your dream dress. If you're worried that your gown no longer matches your wedding, contact us and we can help you figure out the perfect accessories to create your new look!
You may not have to change much about your wedding and the things that you do need to change...try to embrace those changes. It's hard to accept that your wedding is not going to be how you originally planned and it's okay to mourn the original plans, but make sure you're leaving emotional space to be excited for your new plans!
At the end of the day, no matter what, you and your fiance are going to celebrate your love and start your new chapter in life together!
This list is in no particular order, but you will want to contact your venue first. I've left a couple blank spaces at the end for anything else you need!
[ ] Venue
[ ] Gown
[ ] Tux rental
[ ] Photographer
[ ] Caterer
[ ] Florist
[ ] DJ/entertainment
[ ] Rentals company
[ ] Invites
[ ] Hair/makeup
[ ] Cake
[ ] Officiant
[ ] Jewler
[ ] Reception favors
[ ] Transportation company
[ ] Lighting/effects